I’ve been asked this question by straight allies, too, although they word it more eloquently by saying, “so are you the boy, or the girl?”
I always thought it was just a gay male thing, but I can’t count the number of times I’ve been asked whether I’m a top or a bottom. Is it just me, or does the conversation of “tops vs bottoms” always come up when talking about gay or lesbian sex?įor clarification, a top is one who gives penetration or stimulation (dominant) and the bottom is one who receives (submissive).
